Communication Between Genders

Ever since the beginning of time, men and women have had difficulty communicating effectively. A man says one thing and the woman interprets it as something completely different and vice-versa.

I’m sure you all know what I mean. I’m sure this started with the very first caveman and his wife and continues today. Communication between genders has become a very hot topic. Books of every shape and size line the shelves of bookstores and libraries worldwide. “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" is a popular book that explains the differences in how men and women communicate. Sometimes you may feel it would be easier to talk to an alien from another planet than your own partner.

The first thing we need to do is realize and accept that men and women think differently. This is probably not a big news flash unless you have been living in a remote part of the wilderness with no human contact.

By realizing this important fact, you will be able to spend more time listening to members of the opposite sex, rather than judging or criticizing them. We may roll our eyes during a conversation now and then, but this doesn’t mean that males and females can’t communicate effectively. They just need to learn how.

For example, most women prefer to establish intimacy in conversations and establish a rapport with the other person. A favorite topic among many women is relationships; they may spend hours discussing the pros and cons of a romantic relationship with a trusted girlfriend.

Try having this same conversation with a man, however, and she will often be accused of rambling or being indecisive. The woman will probably get defensive and accuse the man of being selfish or insensitive.

This cycle can continue indefinitely until men and women learn how to appreciate and respect their differences.

Many women like to discuss their problems in detail. Other women will usually understand and be readily available to listen and offer their support. These women are often just looking for someone to hear them – not necessarily to fix their problems.

A man, on the other hand, may cut a woman off and offer her a great solution. Women often take this as a sign that he isn’t really listening. The conversation ends with an upset woman and a confused man who was genuinely trying to help.

Most men and women can probably relate to this scenario as it demonstrates the vast difference between males and females. Discussing situations openly and honestly will help both parties to see the other person’s side and possibly adopt a less judgmental point of view.

First and foremost, we need to remember that men and women are referred to as members of the “opposite” sex for a reason! We should try to appreciate our gender differences instead of criticizing them, and practice open communication with everyone we meet.

With a little knowledge and practice, effective communication between genders will no longer appear to be an unattainable fantasy. Who knows, you may even have one of the most enlightening conversations of your life with the next man or woman you meet!

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