How Women Flirt - Is She Really Interested?

Men are always complaining that they don’t understand women. This complaint often extends to the world of dating and flirting. Well, there is great news ahead for all of you men…

Women send 5 times more sexual body language signals than men!

That gives all you guys 5 times as many opportunities to learn whether women are interested.

Most men can easily recognize the non-verbal signs when a woman is NOT interested.

Nothing says “get lost” quite like the evil eye you just received from that attractive brunette in the corner!

Watch the reaction when a woman stands guardedly with her arms folded across her chest and a frown on her face. Men will probably be discouraged from approaching her, let alone asking her to dance.

However, men may have a harder identifying the more subtle signals when a woman is interested.

For example, a woman playfully twirls her hair, rubs her arm or leans in a little closer during a conversation.

What do these gestures mean?

They’re all positive signs that she’s interested in you!

She is using subtle, and sometimes subconscious, body signals to let you know how she feels. She doesn’t need to express the words out loud – her actions speak for her.

Women who are interested will focus on looking their best.

Preening tends to be an important part of how women flirt. A woman will focus on her physical appearance as soon as a man catches her eye. She may straighten her skirt, fix her coat or check the buttons on her blouse.

A flirting woman may also toss her hair around, stroke it or comb it slowly.

This is her way of trying to make the best first impression she can. Take it as a sign you can safely approach her.

Eye contact. Here eyes will reveal all.

A woman who is interested will often give a man a few lingering glances – ones that last longer than usual. She will then break the eye contact and look down. This is a submissive sign that most guys love.

She will often narrow her eyes slightly just like those sultry femme fatales in the movies. Her pupils will often dilate when she’s interested just like men.

If she smiles after giving you several glances, it’s a very good sign. It means you might not have to endure yet another lonely Saturday night…

A flirting woman knows the power of touch.

If you watch how women flirt, you will notice that they often use the power of touch. This can connect with a man’s primal instincts almost instantly.

A woman may touch a part of her body. She might cross and uncross her legs while slowly stroking her thigh. Or she might slowly stroke an object such as her glass.

If she touches or rubs her arm, it’s a good sign. If she touches any other part of her body, it’s a great sign!

A woman may also place her hand on your shoulder or leg or playfully pat you on the back. She may “accidentally” touch your hand when she’s passing you something.

If she leaves her hand for more than a few seconds, you should take this as a sign she’s flirting!

She may reveal a bit of skin to show you she’s interested.

A woman who is flirting will often reveal the skin on her shoulders, chest or back by wearing a low cut top or dress. She may lift up her hair to reveal the skin on her neck.

You will often notice a woman undoing a few buttons on her top or drawing up her skirt slightly.

Another area of skin that can be enticing to men is the soft skin of a woman’s wrists.

She may even expose her armpit. This will often drive men wild as long as you remembered to shave!

If she’s smart, she will reveal just enough to get the man’s attention and let his imagination take over.

She will make certain attention getting gestures with her mouth.

Women will often flirt by rolling their hips when they’re walking. Especially when they know you men are watching them as they head off to get a drink or use the washroom.

They may also tilt their head coyly. However, many women perform various attention getting movements with their mouth.

For example, they may lick their lips or apply their lipstick very slowly in front of you. Another common gesture involves eating something very slowly and showing the man how much she enjoys it.

Think of the food scene in 9 ½ Weeks where Mickey Rourke is feeding a blindfolded Kim Basinger fresh strawberries, chocolate syrup, whipped cream and, ice cubes. I’m sure you can picture the rest…

Making pronounced gestures with her lips will encourage a man to visualize kissing her.

She may draw physically closer to a man.

A woman may also lean in closer when she’s talking to you. If she leans close enough to touch you or whisper something in your ear, you know she’s interested.

She may even lower her voice intentionally so you have to move in closer to her!

This is her way of letting you know that she wants you to come physically and emotionally closer. By drawing you closer, she is creating more intimacy between the two of you.

So the next time you are interested in a woman, look for the following clues:

• She fixes her clothing or hair

• She maintains repeated eye contact

• She touches herself or you during conversation

• She reveals skin on her shoulders, chest, neck or back

• She makes attention getting gestures with her mouth

• She moves physically closer to you

These subtle gestures are all important signs that show you how women flirt.

In addition to gaining knowledge about women, you may gain a few new phone numbers as well!

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